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Hey guys, it’s Julia!

I’m a 21-year-old English student from Hamburg, Germany, and I’m currently completing the last year of my studies. I’ve got to hand in a 30-page long dissertation by the beginning of summer so that I can obtain my Bachelor’s degree and let me tell you…even though…


#1 Nobody cares about your writing dreams

This article will not pamper you. It is unapologetic and to some, it might even feel like a slap in the face. However, if you want to turn your dream into reality, you need to wake up.

Here’s the harsh reality:

1. Nobody cares about your writing dreams.

One of my goals for this year is to…


Her murder will be our tipping point. We will scream louder.

It’s been 11 days since I handed in my dissertation about male violence against women.

It’s been 10 days since Sabina Nessa left her house to meet a friend. A friend she would never see again. A friend that would never see her again.

It’s been 9 days since Sabina…


Maybe it’s time to move on.

I think I’m giving up on men. I’m giving up on dating. Again.

At the moment I just feel like I can’t be bothered anymore, dating is such a frustrating, draining experience.

If you’ve been feeling empty or exhausted after your dates lately, you may want to take a closer…


Don’t let others tell you that you are a bad person because of it.

Dating is hard. It can be even harder when people judge us for how we date or who we date. Nowadays it seems that everyone’s got an opinion.

“Don’t meet him for drinks at 9 pm. He’s probably just trying to get in bed with you.”

“Don’t go on a…


3 signs you have overlooked.

Let me get one thing clear.

Nobody deserves to be ghosted.

No matter what you said or did on your last date. It is a foolish way out for the people who fear confrontation. …


It’s been a long time coming.

Saying goodbye to someone is never easy. Especially if you’ve known that person for years and have a lot of memories with them. But sometimes it’s best to acknowledge that a relationship is no longer working than to talk yourself into spending your time beating a dead horse.

Today has…


Detaching your self-worth from men takes time

I am a wounded woman.

Rationally I know that my worth isn’t dependent on men. Whether they find me pretty, would like to have sex with me, or enter a relationship with me. That’s my mind speaking. But my heart says something else.

When I’m on a date with someone…


And I’m still debating whether to give in to that voice or whether I should fight it.

I’d like to say that I always believe in myself and that I’m certain I will reach my goals and that I trust the process and the path that I am on. But that’s a lie.

I do feel doubts all the time. About writing. All sorts of doubts.

They…

Julia Appa

Just a 22-year-old BA English student who’s obsessed with writing. Instagram: juliaminus_romeo

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